Welcome to The Whole Damn Pie
Amalia: I just want the whole damn pie. I don't want to have to choose anymore. I want to do good work. I want to have an impact on society. And I want generational wealth. On the whole damn pie. You'll hear about everything from personal wealth,
Guest: to me, therapy and money. They need to be connected.
Guest: Some of my bookkeeping were starting to feel really similar to a little bit of counseling work.
Guest: That comment, it was pivotal because it's like that's what built the resume.
Amalia: Diet Culture.
Have you read the book? The Body Keeps the Score.
Guest: yes. And I think everybody should read it.
Amalia: Me too.
Amalia: Self-acceptance.
Guest: I used to not let myself feel my feelings, which actually created more of a backlash than sitting with the feeling wholeness,
Guest: seeing very quickly what it's like to be in the inner circle and then to be kicked out very quickly, really got me obsessed with who makes these rules and why they suck
Amalia: The audacity to do something bigger than you thought you could.
Guest: Maybe I wouldn't have dared to ask for the whole damn pie at the time. And now I'm like, No I just want the whole thing.
Amalia: Professional fulfillment. All the things that make up our lives, especially as women.
Guest: What does it mean to try to live as much as possible according to our values when it feels really contradictory to the values that society espouses?
Amalia: I grew up as really the other. My family is all white. I'm the only person of color. And so I have felt like I had an existence of having to choose one way or the other and not a lot of freedom or privilege to think about all the things in the middle and all the possibilities.
Guest: So often you're doing it because that's the way you've always done it. You don't have to do it that way anymore.
Amalia: So the whole damn pie became a mantra, really
Guest: my whole dang pie. And my mom, I listen to this, I can't cuss.
Amalia: For me personally, the whole damn pie means that I no longer have to live in the binary. Are you for this or are you against that? And if you're not for this, then you're against that. And if you're not against that, then you must be of that.
Guest: The toxic polarization in our communities is top of mind for me.
Amalia: It's been six years of like feeling like we can't even really have conversations about anything that's in the middle. I mean, politically, I mean lifestyle, I mean, whatever we're talking about. But that is the freedom of the whole damn pie is that you can live in the middle and you can figure out what that means for you.